It irks me that we don’t stand up for what is right, by being left.
Sheepishly I conform to what is said and done with the view of not offending anyone by voicing our viewpoints, despite these being factual and ethical and showing that I actually have a point of view and a belief system, rather than what is fed to me.
I particularly find this sort of behaviour in the church life. Funny how many of us are very literal about the ‘sheep and shepherd’ thinking and dare not go boo or BAA [see what I did there] when I’m uneasy about a certain statement or occurrence or both. This gives power to those [in power] and inevitable causes a load of hogwash down the line.
While we’re on the subject, why do we think that there’s a certain vocabulary connected to church? I’ve come to say that this is nonsense. How many of you know that despite us all having the same beliefs pertaining God/Jesus Christ, we aren’t therefore forced to speak the same and use the same phrases. How sheepish!
Take a minute to think how those who are new, to visiting the building we choose as a place of worship, feel when they realise that, hey, I’m just not ‘fitting’ here…the ‘in crowd’ and ‘vocabulary’ of the chosen I’m just not getting. Must be rubbish and disheartening and a good enough reason for them not to return, no.
So how about going against the grain…choosing to be true to myself and at the same time be real about being real.
Take a left, right [now]
Circumstances. Nothing much we can do about them, especially if we were born into them. Take for example the fact that a few of us are born coloured, born on the Cape Flats, born into a family where everything was gained by extreme hard work…maybe both parents needed to work in order just to ensure basic necessities were supplied.
Maybe you were born to a single-parent scenario or possibly no parents at all. Seriously at a disadvantage. There are other horrific circumstances I could suggest as well. Pretty much a handicap in the ‘race of life’
Does this make me though? Does this decide what I can achieve or become?
Two days ago I was fortunate to sit in on a talk [facilitated by my brother] on RESPONSIBILITY. The ability to respond…DESPITE what you’ve been dished up.
You see, society would love us to believe that we can achieve as much as our circumstance allows us to. Of course, a certain amount of realistic thinking needs to prevail. That being said, deciding and acting upon the decision, as to what you’d like to become [your goal] goes a long way further than submitting to society’s branding.
Many of us are conditioned to accept our fate and the defeatist mentality that comes along with this. Comfort zones, which are often not too comfortable, if we’re honest. Couple this with the ‘my grandparents and parents all lived this way, so surely this is my way as well’ thinking and we’re well on our way to average lives.
Its nice and easy to settle.
How about I respond and decide not to
So I’m reading a book about the life of Lolly Jackson. Teazers boss and owner of some of the finest sports vehicles known to man, one of which is none other than the Pagani Zonda.
Now you’d think that a guy as successful…wait a minute, how do we measure success? By the [amount of] things we have…right? So a guy as successful as this should be helluva happy with life and his accomplishments. Should be pleased to look at his materials and satisfied with the life he had lived?!
I read that this wasn’t the case, in fact towards the end of his time on earth he was a very disoriented and miserable human-being.
How then did this happen? Surely, if the way we as society decide on our measurement tools for success and happiness, he would be one of the happiest humans around. Afterall, what I have decides on my degree of happiness and ultimately who I am [seen as]? Really…
IF this was really how we gained true happiness, why are we always chasing? Why are we always dissatisfied with what we have and seeking to get more and get better and get recognition for getting and having?
What a warped [mis]understanding of what happiness truly is. Its how we decide for others as to how happy or accomplished we think they are. Our perceptions based on the physical rather than the spiritual and emotional well-being of another. Quite easy then to play out a false sense of success…because i have and I wear [a fake smile], surely i have arrived.
The reality lies in the fact that when we think we’ve arrived, we then really only arrive at a place of realising that we haven’t. Confusing isn’t it. For ever we’ve been ‘schooled’ into thinking that ‘happiness is measured in possessions’ and as a result we’ve pursued this way wholeheartedly. Sadly so.
More and more I’m being schooled in the real of knowing that if I aint happy inwardly, no amount of outward fooling will change that.
So until we get that, life will suck…[if you could, I’d suggest] ask Lolly…