Armand Van Helden did a track in 1999 entitled “You Don’t Know Me”…had this playing in my head this morning.
Got me a thinking.
How is it that we formulate opinions on individuals based on minimum, often hear-say, information we’ve gathered.
A few weeks ago, I watched an episode of “So What” on Etv. Two individuals who have come into the public eye a lot of late is Kenny Kunene, dubbed “Sushi” for his antics with the seafood+naked women trick and Gayton McKenzie. Before seeing this show, or this episode in particular, the media had sought to paint me a picture of who these ‘cats’ were and how they operated…high-flying, flash lifestyling…very affluent. The kinda people we aspire to be like, as human-beings [without the tender controversy of course]. The moment my perception did a 180 is when Gayton and Kenny visit Gayton’s mother…of course G speaks about the material things he had since bought his mother, after becoming financially strong…that wasn’t it though. They pull up and his mum is cooking, what to most would seem a very simple meal, some dumplings and meat…but the appreciation and enjoyment these two “high-flyers” got from this, will stick with me.
You see, that reminds me, that human beings have personalities. It reminds me that no matter what i learn from the media or from what others’ say about certain members’ of society, until I’ve actually taken time to personally build a relationship with the said individual, i really can’t know who they are…and even after doing that, I still may not fully know.
Another rather ‘in your face’ example is canines. I live in the Southern Suburbs, predominantly coloured community. If you ask most people what their perception of a Staffordshire bull-terrier or Pitbull terrier is, they’d claim this animal is vicious and unsuitable as a pet. This too was my perception…until i walked my dags at Constantia Nek. If anything, my mini pinscher was the one to grab all those ‘characteristics’, while the dogs we came across were rather respectable and even friendly.
Then there’s me. Some of you know me from Plumstead High School…a rowdy little upstart, who loved taking the mick at any given occasion. Others know me from the music scene…you think: outspoken, extroverted, lively, blow …some of you are my family…you know me more intimately, or do you.
Of course, often, perceptions are created by actions or statements. This is fair. However, to ‘box’ people based solely on this, especially with limited exposure to their persona is a bit ‘out of line’ I’d say.
Could it be said, that we form opinions [negative] of others, so that we can divert from our own flaws?
Many of you have a perception of Julius Malema. A negative perception. This based on what you’ve heard…what he has said at times…how you think he lives his life. I love Juju…i love that he loves [deep] house music. I love that he hosted one of the masters of this sound in Louie Vega…i love that he makes wearing a beret, trendy…that suit i don’t love. In saying this, i don’t really have an opinion on him. He says a few outlandish things, but so do i…i do outrageous things too…things many would disassociate themselves with me, for.
People are people. We have the ability to change too. What you know about someone today, may not be relevant tomorrow…learn to know them, before you even consider claiming to…also a great time to learn to know you…as I attempt to learn to know me.
Boxing makes you look a box.